In today’s episode, I talk to Author, Podcaster and Editor of Flying Solo Kelly Exeter about creating space to make it possible to be more productive, do less and “be” more. How do you make space possible? We talk about the importance of setting boundaries and prioritising in order to save your sanity. I actually recorded this interview with Kelly nearly 12 months ago, and it’s been great listening to it again and reflecting on where I was then to where I am now. I had to do some drastic things to create space because I was heading to burnout city. Listening back to this interview was a great reminder to slow down and not worry about the Fear of Missing Out. If you struggle with overwhelm and busyness, this is the episode for you.
Note: Due to a microphone mishap, the first two minutes of this recording are a little tinny. My apologies. Off to get another podcasting mic (again).
Kelly Exeter is owner of Swish Design, a boutique web and graphic design company in Perth. She is also Editor at FlyingSolo.com.au, Australia’s largest online community of solopreneurs and micro-business owners and co-host of two podcasts: Let it Be and Straight and Curly. In 2014 Kelly’s business blog (Swish Design) was named as a finalist in the Australian Writers’ Centre Best Australian Blogs business category. The Swish Design blog was also one of Smart Company’s top 20 Australian Business Blogs in 2015. In addition to her business blog, Kelly authors a popular personal blog called A Life Less Frantic and in 2016 she published her most recent book, Practical Perfection.
- Practical Perfection, a book for strivers, highly-driven people
- Passions + Priorities + Productivity = Practical Perfection
- Passion gives you a spark to keep burnout at bay
- It’s hard when everything seems like a priority
- Having money in the bank takes the stress off.
- When you’re in a scarcity mindset that starts to dominate all your thoughts.
- If there’s something that’s dominating our minds, we have to get really ruthless with our priorities.
- We tend to be in a bit more of a hurry than we need to be.
- I’ll make a big long list and then go through it to prioritise it.
- It feels like in waiting we’re getting behind.
- Every time I’ve been a bit more ruthless, I’ve never ever regretted it.
- Use limitations to set really strong boundaries. Boundaries can be very freeing.
- If you communicate your boundaries, people become very respectful of them. When you don’t have boundaries, people make demands of you all day, every day. We perpetuate that by giving them immediate gratification.
- “Office Hours” makes a lot of sense.
- Of course people are going to love it when you’re responsive. However, that means people will go to you about EVERYTHING! Kelly talks about her experience.
- It’s difficult when you’ve been that person to pull back. People will get annoyed but they’ll also get over it really quickly.
- When we’re not meeting expectations, we tend to overcompensate.
- Set the bar lower and then you will be seen to over deliver.
- It’s not sustainable to set ridiculously high standards that we can’t meet ourselves and then expect someone else to deliver on them.
- We can’t do everything and we can’t be everywhere.
- Running a household is almost a full-time job in itself. All that stuff takes up a lot of head space.
- Those little pockets of space are really worthwhile.
- Get as much help as you can afford. A lot of women feel they’re not doing it right if they need help. We need to let go of that idea.
- It’s just insane to be asking ourselves to be across everything on a personal and work level.
- We give importance to weird things. We need to cut ourselves some slack.
- People find it hard to prioritise creating space. People find it hard to do things for themselves. We need to change our thinking on that.
- It’s not just younger people who have trouble creating space for themselves. We need to stop feeling guilty about taking time out for ourselves.
- I fight hard for these pockets of space that I’ve created in my day that are for me or that allow me to move more slowly.
- Productivity has always been to get more stuff done. I had to change my idea about productivity. Productivity allows me to do less.
- Moving slowly enables you to pace yourself with tasks. There’s less stress.
- Just create one pocket in your day, even if it means getting up half an hour earlier so that you can go do some stuff for yourselves. Meander your way through your morning to set up your day. It’s a nice feeling to not be pressured and rushed. And create a similar pocket in the afternoon.
- We have to be willing to do something that others think might be quite radical in order to get our needs met.
- No kid ever died from having too many cuddles.
- Got to Kelly Exeter’s website. Search the word “whitespace” to find articles about productivity and deliberate inefficiency.
- Allow opportunities to pass by if they’re not a priority, so you don’t overstretch yourself. Stop grabbing at every opportunity out there like it’s the answer to all your problems. There’s nothing out there that is the answer to all your problems.
- Creating physical space helps to create mental space.
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